It can be quite nerve-wracking choosing your wedding dress. There’s so much to think about and also so much unknown, it can be easy to put pressure on yourself. Some of the common concerns I hear from my brides include worry about undressing in front of others, what if the dresses don’t fit, concern about being sold to very heavily and of course, the pressure of having to find the “perfect” dress – what if they don’t like any? I’ve addressed all of that here in my five-step guide to choosing your wedding dress.
What to Wear
One of the things I get asked a lot is what to wear to a wedding dress appointment? This isn’t so important but I would say wear something comfy that you can easily get on and off because you’ll probably be visiting more than one boutique and so you’ll need to get your outfit on and off a few times – avoid anything perhaps with lots of fiddly buttons. It’s always a good idea if you can to wear flesh coloured underwear. It doesn’t matter if this isn’t possible but it will help you envisage the dress better than a lacy black number that could detract from the gown when it’s on.
Please don’t worry about having to get naked in the boutique, it’s not like that at all. It’s all very discreet and there’s a private dressing area for you to get ready. Usually you’ll step into the dress then you let me know and I can step in to do the dress up so you’re modest at all times. It’s all very relaxed and private so you’ll never be stood on a podium in your panties! Not only that, but I only ever have one bride in the boutique at any time so you’ll be guaranteed of privacy and exclusivity and won’t have to be standing in your knickers with someone else a few metres away!
Finding a Gown that Fits
All of the dresses in each boutique are different sizes and at mine I have a range of sizes from 12 to 28 meaning that there are gowns to fit every shape and size. Please don’t worry if you fall in love with a particular gown but I don’t have it in your size. There are still ways to try it, either by holding it up against you or more commonly (as dresses will be more likely to be slightly larger than smaller) we peg them in so that it fits your body better. It still won’t give you the true impact of a dress that is made to fit you but just think, if you love it when it’s clipped in, you’ll love it even more when it hugs your figure perfectly.
Luckily, sales pressure is pretty rare in the bridal industry as boutique owners generally understand that your wedding dress is a major investment and the most important dress that you’ll ever wear. This means it can take time for you to be ready to buy something. I’ve had brides come back three or four times to make sure it’s the one for them and I’ve had other brides who bought the first dress they tried on before they left the shop. Everyone is different and with such an important purchase it’s always good to have as little pressure as possible. So please don’t worry, I can’t speak for every boutique of course but generally (and certainly here) you won’t feel any pressure or sales push to buy. Take your time and make sure you love the dress with all of your heart.
This is very common. Even in one boutique, the amount of styles, designers, choice and different shapes and styles can be overwhelming. You might have come in with an idea of what you wanted but be swayed by everything on the rails. Alternatively you might not have any idea what you like and you’re met with masses of lace, tulle and beading the moment you step in the door. Then imagine visiting three boutiques in a day and you can see how intense that could be. My advice is just to relax and be open-minded. If you have inspiration, bring it with you. We can look through it and have a cup of tea, discussing your wedding vibe, your venue and the feel you’re going for. Don’t worry if you don’t have some magazine pictures or a Pinterest board. Choose a couple of dresses you’re drawn to (I’ll leave you to browse the gowns in peace and privacy) and then as you try one or two we’ll know pretty quickly what sort of thing you love – whether a certain neckline or skirt flatters you most, whether you like something more floaty and romantic or fitted with an extravagant train. I would just recommend remaining open minded and trying different styles to find what works for you and then we can get more focused.
There’s so much to think about when shopping for a wedding dress but these are my top five tips. In short, have fun! Relax and enjoy shopping for what will be the most magical dress of your life and make an occasion of it. There’s no need to feel stressed or worried, it’s my job to make you feel at home and ensure you’re comfortable, all you need to do is turn up and enjoy it whilst I provide the hot drinks and the helpful advice on different dress styles – I promise you’ll feel relaxed in no time!
To book an appointment at the boutique, contact me here or via my Facebook page, I can’t wait to meet you!